Phase II.V

In the post published here called, “Phase II” I mentioned some details about my progress since starting the restoration process in September. In the 2 months since beginning this journey I’ve gone from consistently struggling to properly apply the DTR or retainer to being very proficient at it. For a number of weeks after starting, I could only apply the device while sitting and even then it took a minute or two and a number of attempts to be successful. Applying the retainer was hardly any easier. Currently, I can successfully apply the DTR with far greater ease while sitting and can also (most of the time) easily apply it while standing. A few weeks ago it was a major victory for me to be able to do the same with the retainer while at a urinal – which is itself significantly less involved than the DTR.

In the earlier post on my progress I think I mentioned that I was considering to use t-taping as a supplemental method or even to take over as a primary and then use the DTR as the supplement. That much is still possible, however in this post I wanted to cite a new “mile marker” experienced really just today.

This morning I went to place the DTR and noticed that although the tension was as great as it could be I still didn’t feel uncomfortable. My first thoughts on this were that I have been retaining and t-taping so maybe there’s been progress because of that, and also that I should just give it time (to start hurting, I mean). The DTR is not often uncomfortable for me until nearly the point at which I need to remove it and take a break. I wasn’t sure why my mind was noting something like that, but I decided to keep moving. Until this morning, the longest stretch of time for which I’ve been able to wear the DTR without taking a break is about 90 minutes – occasionally two hours. Later in the morning, however, I found myself suddenly becoming aware of the clock and realizing that it’d surpassed the duration I can usually withstand. I’d gone more than two and a half hours with it on and STILL felt practically no discomfort.

At this point, being a somewhat cynical / skeptical person, I decided to hit the restroom and have a look – maybe there was no discomfort because it’s started to slip off or had already slipped off or something like that. No, sir. When I was able to visually check, everything was in place and just fine. I’ve attached a few pics – you’ll have to forgive the uneven application, I took these pics tonight from home just to show how little of the push rod is remaining.

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My circumcision is “high” but not terribly tight. And I’ve received different advice from different personalities – some encourage me to focus on inner skin while others advise that I already have just about all the inner skin I’ll need and that I would best be served focusing on outer. Frankly, I have a lot of work to do on both and luckily for me, the DTR will generally work both at the same time. The thrill of today’s experience, though, comes with the achievement of being able to advance to the next size up for DTR push rod I’ll be using. The current size I’ve been on is the shortest push rod size that came with the DTR kit. I think it’s something like four inches. I have the six-inch push rod and might play around with it a bit this weekend.

If I am able to handle the six-inch push rod at all, and I’m sure I will be able to, then I’ll likely switch to that for when I use the DTR. However, that will certainly mean a change in my routine, as the four-inch push rod is already just about as much as I can conceal in jeans. If transition to the longer rod goes well and quickly then I feel it’s very likely that T-taping will become the method I employ during business hours and the DTR will become the routine used after I’m home from work and the gym in the evenings. It’s also probable that I’ll need to find a push rod longer than six inches (Chuck’s website offers lengths of 3-, 4-, 5-, 6-, 7-, and 8-inches all for very cheap prices). At any rate, this is a fun graduation for me and something I’m happy to note!

Thanks for reading.

Circumcision Speeches

Hi All,

I thought to share a couple of videos for your enjoyment and information. One of them is a speech given by a connection I have in a KIK chat room and who is also on the Restoring Foreskin forum website. I recall there being a lot of chatter about this speech because he’s apparently not got a lot of experience in public speaking or feels a bit shy. I recall, too, that he mentioned thinking his voice is weird or something. I don’t have a problem with public speaking but I can certainly relate to not liking the sound of my own voice. Surely many people are no different and I hope, despite some of that carrying over in the video, you’ll see the same value as I in the information he shares.

The second video is one I  happened across while watching the first. The speaker in this speech is a little more animated and a little easier to understand at times, but is presenting some of the same information and has made an equally good video to check out. I hope you can appreciate the difference between this video and the prior one as well as the uniqueness of each for what they bring to the table. This isn’t about whether one is better than the other – I’m sharing for the sake of the content.

Thanks for reading.

Phase II

My first attempted method, and what I currently consider to be my primary method, is the DTR. It took me some time to familiarize my hands with the process of putting the device on – a very frustrating process. And then once my hands seemed to cooperate, I had the issue of not having quite enough skin to really “work it” as I’d hoped. In some of the other posts here you can find pics where I actually don’t have much skin going over the bell. Thankfully, practice makes perfect AND makes more skin.

Now, as I near my 2-month mark in restoration, I’m quite familiar and comfortable with using and wearing the DTR. When I feel the need for a break from active efforts, I’m very comfortable retaining. After nearly two months of effort, I’m seeing a noticeable difference in my skin in regard to where and how it fits me.

I have learned, too, that most men benefit from switching routines up periodically. Often it’s been likened to a gym routine for building muscle. Anyone who frequents a gym is probably familiar: On one day you workout one set of muscles. On another day you work out a different set of muscles, thereby letting the first relax and heal. Then on the third day you could work the first group again or maybe do yet another group or something along those lines. Another layer of this effort is that you work out muscle group “1” in a certain way – using the same exercises – and then after a period of this kind of repetition you do different exercises for that muscle group. The key is to switch things up for two purposes: 1) To keep your body guessing which helps you get more from the work outs you do and also avoid plateauing and 2) to allow for a resting period wherein the worked-out tissues are able to sufficiently heal.

Although I’ve read a few times that men usually wait until at least 3 months and sometimes as long as 6 before changing routines, I’m considering making some adjustments. I don’t yet know if I’ll drop DTR’ing as a primary method altogether in favor of another method or if I’ll maybe have two primary methods or … what. But I’ve been looking into a method of known as T-Taping.

I’ve actually tried it once or thrice already and it seems to really be something I could manage. So, that’s a plus. Before doing any kind of “reveal” from my personal experience, I plan to publish an informational post or two about the approaches I’ve seen for this method, so … those are coming and as I gain more first-hand experience and have something more substantial to post, I will.

What are your thoughts on changing things up periodically? How often would you recommend? What are the experiences you’ve come across that seemed to produce results?

Thanks for reading.

DIY Nipple Retainer Video

While first researching restoration methods, I came across the concept of retaining. There are lots of ways to retain – I’ve seen approaches that have included using trombone mouth pieces (an approach which is good for more than just retaining), chopped 5-Hour energy bottles, simple taping techniques, and just about anything you can think of in between.

The idea of retaining is to rather gently hold the skin of the penis in a forward position, usually covering the glans to some degree, so as to encourage the skin in that general direction. Retaining, in conjunction with restoration efforts, is meant to aid in the overall restoration process as a kind of “effortless effort,” and I’m told can also act as a catalyst for de-keratinization of the glans.

People will have different opinions of the value, purpose, and benefit of retaining. For me, this has been a highly valued part of my restoration process. The warnings or risks that I’ve encountered in regard to retaining haven’t been an issue for me and I currently rely mostly on the retainer offered through the DTR website. It’s well-made, inexpensive (to me), and has other perks like being easy to clean.

In the very beginning of my journey, however, I relied on a DIY version of a retainer that I learned about online. This retainer is made from baby bottle nipples. I’ve attached pics of my bottle nipple retainer and pics of me wearing it. Additionally, as instructional material, I’m including two videos. (A link to one, actually, and the other I’ll try to embed into this post.)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened (Top View)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened (Top View)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened

DIY Nipple Retainer, Opened

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed (Top View)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed (Top View)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed (Underside)

DIY Nipple Retainer, Closed (Underside)

DIY Nipple Retainer

DIY Nipple Retainer

DIY Nipple Retainer

DIY Nipple Retainer

The first video I’ll share here can really only be shared through a link you’ll need to click. It’s hosted on the Vimeo website and requires a password (Password = “retainer”). To access that video, which does have sound but no verbal instruction, you can click here and then when prompted enter the password. I’m not familiar with the maker of this video or the man in it, but I’m assuming this is okay to share since it’s in public domain (all password security aside). Without uttering a word, the man in the video makes the retainer and then puts it on himself. In the way he demonstrates, this matches my understanding of a “true” retainer – his method isn’t useful for anything more than gently holding the skin forward. He also demonstrates how securely it stays on, which is good.

The second video is found on Youtube and contains no nudity. There are really two parts to this video (the second part starts at around 5:43). The first part of the video is assembly and the second part details additional uses beyond retaining. The maker of this video does a fine job instructing on how to make the devices as well as how to put it on yourself (it’s clear he’s familiar with restoring efforts and various approaches). This is the video I first saw and which inspired the photos above. I appreciate that he recognizes retaining to be useful to a variety of men on this path regardless of how much or how little progress you already have under your belt. I hope you find this video as beneficial as I did.

It’s important to understand the versatility and limitations of this DIY device. The biggest limitation I’m aware of is that it grips quite a bit tighter than a “normal” retainer would. There’s actually a bit of squeeze to it. I think it’s because of this that it’s really important to make sure that the cuts you make to trim and shape the nipples are really clean and leave as little jagged edge as possible. However, the aforementioned detriment can also be seen as a strength. It’s because of that stronger-than-a-typical-retainer grip that the same device can be used as a tugging / tension device without any real additional work to the device itself. Another way this could be used is to just use one nipple and some tape (place the nipple against the glans, roll skin over it, and tape the skin in place). I also know of one gentleman who completely cut the ends off the nipples and can wear this device all day as a retainer that allows him to urinate without removing it.

If you have tried this or if you are considering it and decide to, please let me know! I’d love to add your experience to Velanidi.

Thanks for reading.

Bunk & Bogus

Image taken from Google Image search

Image taken from Google Image search

One thing I’ve seen more than a few times in my short time on the restoration path and from a few different areas of the community is the presence of those who not only don’t contribute to the betterment of the community but also are detractors. I see and learn from and experience this community through a number of ways: Facebook groups, RF.org site and forums, and KIK chat groups, and a Coach Me app, among others. As would happen anywhere else, there are people who disagree and maybe even just don’t like each other. This is normal – and especially so in things that aren’t as cut and dry as other things. Foreskin restoration is a very fluid thing: What might work with me could be useless to you. Many of us are using the same methods, but we’re all starting at different places in regard to beginning CI measurement, budget allowances, and discretionary needs, just to name a few. All that, never mind the fact that some human bodies respond to one thing in one way and other human bodies respond to the same thing differently.

This has already been evident in regard to retaining. I’ve been retaining since I started and plan to continue for as long as I restore. I was, however, advised that I shouldn’t be doing this AT ALL until I have full flaccid coverage. That difference is simply a different approach based on different understanding of certain concerns and how to best manage them. Each man who is restoring needs to assess everything he reads or is told and not just to do it because it was read or written. All that aside, though (and I suppose not entirely “aside” considering what I just wrote about having a discerning mind) I had an experience recently that really hasn’t left me alone.

I’m currently a member of only two KIK chat groups relating to foreskin restoration. As I understand it, one of them really only came about because the original moderator of this group chat was removed from the other group because he supposedly posted content that was deemed inappropriate. I can’t speak to that drama because I wasn’t really around at that point. What I can say, though, is that in this “new” group nothing inappropriate has taken place – except, in my opinion, the tolerating of bullshit.
Tolerating bullshit is… well, bullshit itself. Too many of us have invested YEARS of our human life trying to recover what was taken from us without consent, trying to have fuller sexual experiences, trying to look more like nature / god made us. For those admins and moderators among us to let crap persist is disappointing. In my opinion, to tolerate blatant bullshit is unnecessary and weak and even worse it’s disrespectful to those of us who are genuine. There may be times when the BS is tougher to discern – fine. But there usually comes a point when it’s blatant and needs halted.

In the one KIK group recently, an australian who goes by “Sam” showed up. Immediately I sensed he was up to no good. His questions, the kind of questions, the pace at which he asked them and progressed to the next (aka very scattered conversation), his responses to the (legit) answers he was given… just about everything coming from him struck me as ridiculous and insincere and even almost as though he was testing us “real” restorers. Then he started talking about surgery.

This always makes my ear perk up because I’m not a very patient person and surgery is a sure-fire was to get results NOW. Whether those results are good might be a different story, but you’ll have results now.  He mentioned two surgies he was considering – one was flat out a foreskin transplant. This is honestly something I’ve not heard about even being doable. Transplants, to my best knowledge, are a procedure reserved for necessary situations – not cosmetic as the foreskin situation would almost certainly be. Maybe I’m wrong, though. The other he mentioned was a surgery wherein he was essentially re-circumcised. This made almost no sense to me. He said it was explained to him as a way to kind of traumatize his skin so that he could then have greater success with stretching and stressing the skin until a new foreskin was achieved. I could be wrong about both of them, but they both sound silly and don’t make sense according to the medical knowledge I already possess (which isn’t much, but is more than the average bear).

Then he said he was going to go to a urologist who is a “circumcision specialist.” When I questioned whether he would / should actually be going to a cosmetic surgeon, he admitted that he didn’t know. RED FLAG: How could anyone possibly think to go under the knife without knowing even that kind of basic info about the person performing the surgery?

In a private chat with someone who’d had a private chat with Sam, I learned the supposed name of the surgeon. And then I did some research. I was able to find an online listing of every doctor who could even remotely be considered a “circumcision specialist.” The doctor named by Sam was, indeed, among those listed. So I contacted the doctor. (Side Note: I have two friends in Australia. Neither know each other and both are medical professionals. Both advised me that in Australia there’s no such thing as a “circumcision specialist.” More bullshit from Sam.)

The doctor in question has a very well-made website detailing the services offered. Nowhere was it ever suggested that work was ever done on grown males. The entire practice seemed centered around infant circumcision. In contacting the doctor (yes, I contacted the doctor), I lied a bit: I said I was looking for restorative work, that I wondered if re-circumcising would be an option for me to aid as a corrective measure and asked if such work was possile and if, as a grown male, I could consult with their practice.

The response I got was anything but affirmative. This doctor indicated that what I asked about is not on their “menu” of services offered and that, given my circumstance, I would need to contact my general practicitioner (family doctor) and obtain a referral to a surgeon.

So there you have it. Either Sam from Australia is a liar or the doctor he said he was going to is.

Why do people feel the need to mingle with a crowd like foreskin restoring men and then be that kind of ridiculous? I feel like there’s a general perception that the admins / moderators among us are knowledgeable and responsible – they’re leading, after all, even if it’s just a Facebook group or online forum. Why do people who should (and probably do) know better tolerate this? Nothing violent or offensive is warranted, surely, but why not soon remove / ban people like “aussiesam”?

I know how valuable my own time and effort and motivation are. My mind is both critical and analytical and this makes it almost second nature for me to look into things I suspect. My role in this wasn’t for the purpose of proving someone wrong, but rather for the purpose of making sure the information in my own head is valid. For my sake, I wouldn’t permit that kind of nonsense. Certainly your time and effort and motivation are no less valuable so I think you shouldn’t permit it either.

Thanks for reading.